exhale
yesterday i happened to be browsing about on ebay. (something i don't usually do anymore.) out of curiosity, i looked up the seller i had dealt with in my last ebay exchange. nothing. the last few times i had happened to be looking around on ebay i had done the same thing with the same result. then for some reason it occurs to me that i haven't been looking in the right place. my sense of guilt/avoidance/whatever had made me less than logical. so i clicked a few more times than usual and bingo, there she was and i was not pleased.
i wrote her an email:
I hope you are well.
I haven't been near eBay in a long time, but I happened to look you up today and see that you are no longer a registered user, but you did have feedback as recently as last November. I was afraid that you had come to grief after the tsunami, but I see that was not the case.
Your silence all this time leads me to believe that my chances for a refund are nil -- is that correct? Seems hardly sporting after the bag was returned and signed for by your relative. Please advise.
Thanks much.
i don't expect a response, and that's okay. but this has just been one of those nagging things in my head and i think i needed some closure on it. it felt good to get this off my chest. some may think i was a total pansy about this -- and you know, i was -- but i thought she was dead or seriously injured. even if she wasn't, then maybe her family was and i felt like i would be the biggest bitch on earth to nag someone in that kind of distress. but i don't see how you could run an ebay business under those circumstances, so i guess she made out all right.
i feel better about this already.